Everybody Knows – a Valentine’s Day song 2017

After much struggle with failing software and hardware, and the help of my cel-phone, I have finished this years Valentine’s Day song for my dear Bride.

It wasn’t easy to build. When I finally got iMovie to work, the built-in iSight camera on the iMac would not hold Frame Sync and would quit recording.  So I set up my cell-phone and sang to it.  I imported the video into iMovie and laid the recorded track onto the video.

But here’s what Abdu’l-Baha’ once said:
“Where there is love, nothing is too much trouble, and there is always time.”
(that will likely be NEXT year’s song!)

I am eternally grateful for the love between me and my bride.  I’m proud that it’s the kind of love that shows. And I don’t mind that EVERYBODY KNOWS!

So that’s the Valentine’s Day song for this year. I sure hope you liked it.

///Darrell
Darrell Elmer Rodgers
Singer, Songwriter, Performer, Humorist
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The TRIO rides again in Tucson!

Received last night:
“Congratulations! The Tucson Kitchen Musicians Association is pleased to invite
Darrell Elmer Rodgers to perform at the 32nd Annual Tucson Folk Festival.
You are scheduled to perform at 1:30 PM on Saturday, May 6th on the Museum of Art Stage (In the Museum of Art Courtyard). “

IMG_3933So there you have it friends! Mark your calendar for May 6, 2017 and see the Darrell Elmer Rodgers Trio – with Rick Heyman on bass and Michael Parker on drums – perform at the Tucson Folk Festival, Saturday May 6th behind the Museum of Art.  The last time we played that stage was two years ago and we received a standing ovation! (of course, some of them may have just been anxious to get another beer, because that’s the official Festival Beer concession site)

This will be my 9th year to play at this Festival which is among the longest running FREE folk music festivals in the entire country.  And some of you might be pleased to know that the performers all undergo “extreme vetting”!  That is, we all auditioned competitively to earn a spot on the program.  And the program spans two full days (about noon to moon) and covers 5 stages with acts both local and from afar (this year, “afar” includes me)

I’ve already heard from several friends (including Jim Pipkin, Eric Ramsey, Eb Eberlein) who are also performing and expect dozens more.  This is one of the BEST music events in Arizona. You really should make the trip!

///Darrell
Darrell Elmer Rodgers
Singer, Songwriter, Performer, Humorist
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Cel Phone video: When it rains in Texas Canyon

I got so frustrated trying to get iMovie to work after an “update” that I gave up and just turned on my cel-phone video camera. So, just to share the basics of my new “Cowboy” song, here’s “When it Rains in Texas Canyon” by me, Darrell Elmer Rodgers

Hope it was enjoyable.

///Darrell

Darrell Elmer Rodgers
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Happy Merry Whatever You Got

Well, yes, I’ve been remiss in posting to my blog, but hey, that’s the way life goes sometimes. We’ve been assembling a new home in Las Cruces from the pile of stuff we brought here from Arizona.

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I just wanted to take a moment here to wish all of you a Happy Holiday Season, be it Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanza, Solstice, or any number of holidays I can barely pronounce or hope to spell.

The point is, I wish you a joyous time with family and friends. I plan to get a little slide of that myself. We’re going to visit our grand daughters.  Oh yes, we’ll see their parents too, but let’s get real. There’s nothing like young tots who love you just because you’re there.

Isn’t that what we’d like to feel from each other as well? Loved for just being there.

Well, it can start on my end!  I love you because you’re here. Have a blessed holiday and a prosperous New Year!

 

///Darrell
Darrell Elmer Rodgers
Singer, Songwriter, Performer, Humorist
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Birthday Reflections

Tuesday, October 25th, I turned 63 years old. No big deal.  Except for the realization in my head that I am now the age my father was when he died back in May of 1989. My dad, Darrell Elmer Rodgers Sr., a.k.a “Pinky”, had smoked all his life and probably ate all the wrong things as well. Both of those factors likely contributed to his heart and arterial disease that eventually took his life by way of an aortic aneurysm that could not be repaired in the operating room. His aorta was too brittle. He died on the operating table.

DarrellSrHoldingDarrellJrDad’s birthday was October 21, just four days (and 28 years) before mine. He died on May 6th.  That means: if I wake up on earth this coming May 10th, I will have lived longer than my Dad.

Now I have no problem enjoying a longer life than he did. I hope that my avoidance of tobacco through the decades will help me, and am counting on genes from my mom’s side to prevail (she’s now almost 91).

What’s giving me pause is some “internal talk” in the back of my mind about not having a life map anymore. My father has been my mind-embedded example of how to be  man, how be a dad, and how to grow older. Well, I hope I’ve learned the first two lessons well enough, but that last one, growing older, is going to be more of an On-The-Job training exercise from this point forward.

Of course, there are others dear to me leading the way, from whom I am also learning. Still, there’s something uneasy about venturing into the unknown future without my most-trusted map. And there’s probably a song in there too.

///Darrell
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Dead on My Feet but still truckin’

This has been a tough month so far.  I just finished moving the last load of bulky items from our old home in Casa Grande, AZ to our new one in Las Cruces, NM.

That’s right, The darrellsongs Studio has moved again. After 7 years in Casa Grande (8 and a half in Arizona), I will now be based in Southern New Mexico.

Here’s the new digs:

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Of course, it looks like a warehouse on the inside right now.  Boxes are stacked all over the place and the room designated for my studio space is jammed, awaiting me to re-assemble my recording bench and my desk.  But who has the time?  I’m driving back to AZ on the weekends to clean up the old mansion and get it ready to sell. I’m working 10-hour days to free up my Fridays for that task.

And, I should mention, this is significant downsizing for us.  AZ house: 3080 sq. ft. NM house: 1725 sq. ft.  That’s about a 44% reduction in space, and I haven’t made near that reduction in “stuff”.  So I’ve rented storage space as well.  Figuring out what to store, is a big task in itself.

And on top of this pandemonium, I’m pressing forward with Music Makers Weekend at Desert Rose Baha’i institute this December 16-18.  If I get enough registrations to break even by November 15th, we’ll move ahead. If not, it will be “refund the money time” and we’ll cut our losses.

As a songwriter, I’m very frustrated. I keep getting cool song ideas but can’t take the time out to work them into something good. How about a cowboy song that came to me while driving in a rain storm through Texas Canyon just East of Benson, AZ:

As the rain swept up the canyon from the valley down below,
I knew I’d have to shelter, no further could I go.
It reminded me of stories that my ol’ grand daddy told.
When it rains in Texas Canyon, all you get is wet and cold.

Maybe I’ll remember enough of them once this is finished, to really crank out some new gems. I sure hope so. I need the therapy!

///Darrell
Darrell Elmer Rodgers
Singer, Songwriter, Performer, Humorist
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Social Media and Baby Boomer Parents of Adult Children

I remember how I felt when Facebook started sucking time out of my day.  I thought: “This will be like everything else, a fad. I’ll burn some hours early-on, grow bored, and seldom use it later”. Wrong.

Social media like this, a significant advance from our old Fido Net message boards of the 1980’s, was not “just another game”.  For me, it became an ever-present window to reunions – with old classmates, new friends, and my adult children.

And before they figured out what they would be revealing, my kids accepted my friend requests!  Now, that’s not to say they made an inadvertent blunder. I’d like to believe they connected with me because they WANTED to include me in their life. But such connection is a two-edged sword.

Don’t get me wrong, I want this connection. I want to know what’s happening in their lives and I want them to know about me. But I probably wasn’t fully prepared for the impact of relinquishing “ignorance is bliss” from my life.  I can’t help but feel, they may feel the same way about stuff I post.

I think social media has opened my eyes to the “layers” of human communications. Some statements are meant to defend a position, or take a side.  Some are an advertisement for emotions. And some, seemingly few, are really aimed at achieving understanding.

Of course, a transmitter is useless without a tuned receiver. Listening is even more crucial in the connected world, but one must be able to discern the nature of the transmission as well as the content.

For instance, my adult daughter posted a piece on depression that really shook me. About half way through reading it, I was ready to jump in the car and rush to save her from suicide. Thankfully, her post resolved in a deeply reflective peace that let me know “she’s got this”.

But it underscores the weight we bear when we choose to remain connected. And that’s a good thing. Those who can’t handle such intimacy, run from it. Those who love, stay.

Perhaps that’s an over-simplification. Some stay to help, some stay to influence, some stay to persuade, some stay to chastise or degrade. Some leave because it hurts, some leave because they don’t care, some leave because they feel helpless, or even guilty.

It’s an interesting dynamic to observe.

IMAG1741But because I LOVE my adult kids, I WANT the connection. Well, that’s only half of it. I keep the connection because I WANT their Love.

There’s an old premise that says “everything we do or say is an attempt to gain love”.  But as a former salesman, I know that “preventing a loss” is also a strong motivator.

On the “gaining love” side of things are posts like my daughters where she exposes her struggle and pain.  Does she want advice? – probably not – particularly anything expressed in  condescension “Oh, you shouldn’t feel that way” or “Here’s what you need to do…”

Perhaps all she really wanted was a hearing ear and a reply that tells her she’s loved and respected and admired. After all, isn’t that what WE ALL want?

This connection thing is heavy, but it’s worth it to me. I wonder what kind of deeper relationship I might have developed with my Father had he lived long enough to experience a social media connection with me. I think I would have treasured that because I know he loved me. And unlike mom, who can’t stand computers, Dad would have enjoyed playing with a new gadget!  I think I’ll connect with my 90-year old mother on the one social medium she knows – the phone.  I won’t share her grand children’s struggles because I don’t want her to worry, but I might ask her for some prayers for “the highest good to manifest in their lives”. She’s real good at that media too.

///Darrell
Darrell Elmer Rodgers
Singer, Songwriter, Performer, Humorist
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