My daughter has started a blog. In it she muses about life as a mom. Today, she posted a wonderful piece called “permission to suck”
Her post tells of how “sucking” (doing poorly) at something can be an emancipating and even a unifying moment if approached with a child-like attitude of wonder. It’s worth reading.
The connection for performing musicians is clear if you think about it. If you can’t envision it, pay a visit to your nearest open mic night. BUT choose one with a healthy crew of regulars who know and support each other (like family should). That’s where you’ll see “permission to suck” in action – in a viable way. Even though I perform regularly at folk festivals and other events and venues, there’s a mental liberation in performing among friends who will allow you, without harsh criticism, to suck. It gives you creative license to try new things before an audience who won’t throw things at you. Sure, you’ll know you sucked, but guess what? You’ll do better at it next time. What’s more, all the mistakes made by others that night will become a bonding among you.
The blog post made me feel good to see how my daughter and her husband are providing their daughter (my grandchild) with a warm and loving childhood. She is growing up without a fear of embarrassment for her mistakes. Everything is an adventure! Sure technology changes life, but life experience at its core still teaches the same valuable lessons of decades and centuries past. And I’m grateful for the technology that helps me stay connected with the daily lives of my children, their children, my siblings and cousins and their families and of course, all my friends around the world.